Deep Sexy

Deep Sexy
While everyone in America was roasting turkeys, baking pies and dealing with crazy relatives, J. and I had the most romantic Thanksgiving ever. My son spent the holiday with his father and his family, so J. and I had an unprecedented four days together, alone. It was a beautiful, beautiful time. We spent it bonding and cooking and making love.

We bonded emotionally, a natural stage in relationships, building intimacy and trust, and this is something I never experienced before. This is how a real relationship develops, in stages. I am living it and observing it wonder and appreciation. I am 48. Learning and living never stop. It’s never over, it’s never too late, as long as you’re willing to take a risk and jump into the fray.

We shopped together, buying ingredients for the meal we had decided on: chicken with forty cloves of garlic, stuffing, salad and wine. Dessert. Condoms. Love.

The chicken was impressive, if I do say so myself. This is one of my favorite dishes. He had never had it so it was fun to surprise him. “This is amazing,” he said, and it was. We ate by candle light, and talked and laughed late into the night. He had to work the next day, but after that we had the whole weekend.

We went to bed tipsy with wine and and fell asleep wrapped around each other. At some point near dawn — he loves early morning sex — I feel his tongue licking me. I wake up with his head between my legs and my clit engorged. Good morning. His tongue circling and his hands squeezing my ass just drove me out of my mind and I came so hard i was shaking — I’ve had so many different types of orgasms with J. — but he didn’t give me a second. He turned me over, grabbed me by the hips pulled me to my knees, and started fucking me with a vengeance. Making me whimper, pumping while deep inside me, and then (bastard) slid almost aaaall the way out of my pussy (just leaving in the head in) and sliding aaallll the way in…slooowly…killing me. I was begging him to go harder, faster, to stop torturing me, but he had his own ideas. Then, finally, he slammed into me hard, hitting me deep and pumping fast, and I couldn’t get enough of him, I was so tight around him, slamming my ass against his thrusts, until I finally started coming, howling into the pillows. I was aware of him pumping me a few seconds more, and then of his kissing my back…and then he went off to take a shower and go to work. I could barely lift my head. I fell asleep.

That night when he got home from work, I was waiting with candle light, dinner and massage oil, and it was all about the blow job, and enjoying him and learning what he likes. Later we were naked on the sofa, having wine and eating cheesecake and I thought, every Friday should be like this. Much later, we enjoyed each other into the wee hours.

“I’m soooooo in love with you,” he said.

My heart.
“I love you too.”

We spent half of Saturday talking, cuddling and laughing in bed, about all kinds of things. I had one moment while we were laughing together in bed when I realized: this is really special. When he holds me, I feel cherished and loved, and he is always there with unquestioning support for everything. He is my cheerleader, my support, my defender…sounds like The One.

I love him in a way that I’ve never loved anyone. It’s just a fact. Like the sun, and the sky and the air we breathe. It is weightless but also…turning everything upside down, as love does.

So of course, now I’m having anxiety attacks and going back to therapy.


  • Ms. Behaves

    January 10, 2013 at 6:18 pm

    I've actually been reading about polyamory for a few months, wondering if that's what I want in the future, and if I could possibly do that. See new post…

  • Anonymous

    January 10, 2013 at 2:03 pm

    Ok I will bite (academically speaking) ….Are you poly? The sex with your ex seems just sex (swinging) but your relationship with T contains some emotional attachment (song lists, passion, etc). You are/were going back and forth between ex, T and J. Your openness with ex and T on this arragement indicates poly, but J is out of the loop (not poly because you hid your other sex encounters). <br />

  • Ms. Behaves

    January 10, 2013 at 6:11 am

    Thank you so much for your comments and encouragement. As you will see, things are moving along in that direction, which was a total surprise to me.<br /><br />Am I poly? Hmmmmm

  • Anonymous

    January 9, 2013 at 6:24 am

    Please know the joy of being brave and open and honest. We all want to be truly known and accepted and adored by someone(s) for who we really are. J&#39;s love for you is based on an incomplete picture of you – not the full you. Seek a full love. You are poly and need open relationships for now – and possibly the future. Live your life fully and openly. You can do it.

  • Ms. Behaves

    January 8, 2013 at 10:16 pm

    Anonymous, your comment hits me very hard, especially today (new post coming). You&#39;re calling me on my dishonesty with J., and that hurts. Even though I&#39;m pretty sure Terminator and I are now over, your comment that I&#39;m hiding my needs from J. stings because it&#39;s true — somewhat. He knows about my recent past and that I&#39;m sexually voracious, I don&#39;t think he realizes how

  • Anonymous

    January 8, 2013 at 3:14 pm

    Thank you. Your stories are sensual, and full of passion -you seem to be exploring your sexual side – which is great to read (ok – hot). However whether poly, monogamous, or possible future open marriage, all have one fundamental trait for success – honesty and agreed expectations from each other. You state in a post that you and J connect on a deep level more than anything, but that is not not

  • Ms. Behaves

    January 2, 2013 at 2:58 am

    Hi Anonymous,<br />This is a fabulous and relevant question.<br />J. does not know about the Terminator (terrible, I know) because I am trying to leave Terminator for good, and I just hooked up with him again after a six-month separation. J. would not be ok with a poly situation, because we discussed this early on. Five years from now — I am still struggling to figure out what I want — the

  • Anonymous

    December 27, 2012 at 11:52 am

    Just found this blog. Curiosity has me (no judgements)with many questions – you are polyamorous? J knows about Terminator and others? Lastly, when you envision your life – 5 years from now – what do you see relationship wise?

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